Someone posted this in a forum last week, and when I read it, I honestly laughed. Basically, in relationships, most women seem to have “rules.” Well, a guy finally made a list of his own. Sadly enough, I feel they’re quite accurate. Check them out here.

I’ll admit that I’ve done several of the things on the list: hoping for mind readers, dropping hints, and asking questions I really didn’t want answered, BUT there are several that I’ve supported. For instance, when I’m at a guy’s house and I find the toilet seat up, I will put it back up when I’m finished. I’m usually the only girl around, so don’t worry, there shouldn’t be a girl going in after me wondering about my gender. hehe.

Anyway, I want to focus on one rule in particular:

1. Ask for what you want. Let us be clear on this one:
Subtle hints do not work!
Strong hints do not work!
Obvious hints do not work!
Just say it!

I’m definitely guilty of that one. However, I’ve made great efforts over the past several months to overcome that. It’s actually nice being direct. There have been instances where other circumstances have made directness impossible. I’m actually in one now and so hints will have to work for the time being. I’ve noticed that although men have noted they can only understand a direct order, it seems they assume that women can understand hints. Just because we drop hints, doesn’t mean that we get them if we were on the receiving end. I’m betting most insecure women receive hints, even when hints aren’t dropped, which can be bad. I’ve done that, too. Again, I’m much better.

I’m currently in a situation where I fear guys aren’t being direct with me and are possibly not only dropping hints but obvious ones. Well, point. I don’t take hints. I had too many years of being the paranoid freak that took hints that weren’t there. In turn, I missed out on a lot, so now, I continue on my path until someone tells me to my face to stop. Yes, in person required. Surprising as it may be, I prefer face-to-face conversations to email.

Just in case any of y’all or anyone you know are holding back the full truth from me to protect my feelings or because you fear my wrath (haha), let it out. I’m a big girl. The uncertain hinting is much more taxing on my battered little brain.

That reminds me. I was talking to a new girl on the team about Kellen mocking me. She made a good point. Kellen’s like that to those he likes (at least to some degree), so it’s sort of like my twisted family at home. When I came home with all A’s, my dad’s typical response: “Well, you could have done better”. It took me a few years, but I finally realized that was the only way my dad could express himself. A few years after that, I realized I’m the same way, so if I appear to be belittling, sarcastic, or borderline rude, it’s because I respect you and I’m comfy enough around you to be nice in my own twisted way. Example: I say, “Man, you’re such a bastard”. Translation: “you make me laugh”...umm unless you’re Lazear, then I do truly mean what I say. haha. Seriously, I’m trying really hard to be “normal” nice, and I’ve about conquered it on aim & email but I’ve still got some work to do in person. BTW, Keane’s “She has no time” is a beautiful song.